Monday, October 27, 2014

Ways in Removing Acne Naturally

A smooth, blemish-free skin has become the dream of all young women, which they can show off to everyone. However, acne plagues millions of people of all ages and can leave the acne scars on the affected area.

Acne scars are actually a post-inflammatory change, which have a serious effect on a person's self-esteem and emotional state. The following recommended natural remedies may give you fast relief for acne scars.



White Sugar

After cleansing, rub a little white sugar on your palm. Add some water to prevent stimulating the sensitive skin. Then rub it over your face for 1 minute. Rinse with clean water. Do it 3 times a day.

As far as medicine is concerned, sugar is beneficial for wound-healing. It is recommended to wash your face with white sugar every day. In a week, your skin will be white and smooth again. In addition, it is also effective in treating acne scars. Persist and you will achieve great results than you might think. For some people it is really a cheap and easy way to deal with skin conditions.

Seaweed Mask

Go and buy a bag of seaweed pellet mask in a cosmetic store. Add some clean water to 20 grams of seaweed pellets to make a face mask. Apply it to your face for 10 minutes. Rinse with clean water and then apply some face cream. Do it every two days.

This facial mask has proved to be highly effective in eliminating acne scars and will leave your skin feeling incredibly smooth and silky. It only costs you about 5 yuan for the seaweed pellets, and a bag of pellets can be used for 8 times.

Vitamin C Mask

Crush 500 mg of Vitamin C tablets in mineral water. Soak the mask paper into the water. Apply it to your skin and leave it on for 1 minute.

Experts said that 500 mg tablets is enough, and this is a simple and practical mask to clear up acne and its scars.

Carrot

Crush fresh or cooked carrots into a paste. Add degreasing dissolving powders. Stir until it gets thick. Apply the paste to your face till it dries up. Rinse with clean water. To date, carrot is accepted to be an amazing food to fade and heal scars.

Aloe Vera and Phosphatide

Take 1/4 cup of aloe vera juice and a spoon of phosphatide powders. Mix them together and stir evenly. Apply the paste to the scars for at least 15 minutes. Do it once a day.

Some researches have shown that aloe vera produces positive medicinal benefits for healing damaged skin, while phosphatide can resume the situation of decrease of skin laying rapidly and maintain the reasonable balance of moisture to the skin.

Dermatologists suggest that early acne treatment is the best way to prevent acne scars. But if you have scarring from acne, the above are some fast and easy methods being used for fast removal of acne scars.Tapioca + Egg White

Tapioca + Egg White

Break an egg and get the egg white. Mix it with 10 grams of tapioca. Apply the paste to your face and leave it on for 15-20 minutes. Be careful to avoid areas around the eyes and mouth. Do it twice a week.

As we know, tapioca and egg white are both famous for whitening and cooling effect. Mix them together to make a face mask will do wonders to your skin. It not only helps to make your skin smooth and soft, but eliminate the acne scars effectively. This homemade mask is also a cheap one and just cost you less than $2.

Tapioca + Yogurt

Add several drops of yogurt into the tapioca. Stir evenly. Apply the paste to the acne scars before you get to sleep in the evening. Rinse it the next morning.

Keep in mind that too much tapioca is not necessary, or it will cause the blockage of pores. Use low fat or degreasing yogurt to avoid fat granules. Persist, and you will get great results. This inexpensive method again, won't cost you more than $2.

Apple

Cut an apple into slices. Pour the boiled water over the apple slices until they become soft. Cool down and apply to the acne scars for 20 minutes. Rinse with clean water.

This is really a very simple remedy to treat acne and acne scars. You just need to apply it to your skin twice a week. Make sure to pick fresh apples. One apple only costs you about 30 cents.

Monday, October 20, 2014

The 9 Most Overlooked Threats to a Marriage

I feel bad for marital communication, because it gets blamed for everything. For generations, in survey after survey, couples have rated marital communication as the number one problem in marriage. It's not.

Marital communication is getting a bad rap. It's like the kid who fights back on the playground. The playground supervisors hear a commotion and turn their heads just in time to see his retaliation. He didn't create the problem; he was reacting to the problem. But he's the one who gets caught, so he's sent off to the principal's office.

Or, in the case of marital communication, the therapist's office.

I feel bad for marital communication, because everyone gangs up on him, when the truth is, on the playground of marriage, he's just reacting to one of the other troublemakers who started the fight:

1. We marry people because we like who they are.
People change. Plan on it. Don't marry someone because of who they are, or who you want them to become. Marry them because of who they are determined to become. And then spend a lifetime joining them in their becoming, as they join you in yours.

2. Marriage doesn't take away our loneliness. 
To be alive is to be lonely. It's the human condition. Marriage doesn't change the human condition. It can't make us completely unlonely. And when it doesn't, we blame our partner for doing something wrong, or we go searching for companionship elsewhere. Marriage is intended to be a place where two humans share the experience of loneliness and, in the sharing, create moments in which the loneliness dissipates. For a little while.

3. Shame baggage. Yes, we all carry it it. 
We spend most of our adolescence and early adulthood trying to pretend our shame doesn't exist so, when the person we love triggers it in us, we blame them for creating it. And then we demand they fix it. But the truth is, they didn't create it and they can't fix it. Sometimes the best marital therapy is individual therapy, in which we work to heal our own shame. So we can stop transferring it to the ones we love.

4. Ego wins. We've all got one. 
We came by it honestly. Probably sometime around the fourth grade when kids started to be jerks to us. Maybe earlier if our family members were jerks first. The ego was a good thing. It kept us safe from the emotional slings and arrows. But now that we're grown and married, the ego is a wall that separates. It's time for it to come down. By practicing openness instead of defensiveness, forgiveness instead of vengeance, apology instead of blame, vulnerability instead of strength, and grace instead of power.

5. Life is messy and marriage is life. 
So marriage is messy, too. But when things stop working perfectly, we start blaming our partner for the snags. We add unnecessary mess to the already inescapable mess of life and love. We must stop pointing fingers and start intertwining them. And then we can we walk into, and through, the mess of life together. Blameless and shameless.

6. Empathy is hard. 
By its very nature, empathy cannot happen simultaneously between two people. One partner must always go first, and there's no guarantee of reciprocation. It takes risk. It's a sacrifice. So most of us wait for our partner to go first. A lifelong empathy standoff. And when one partner actually does take the empathy plunge, it's almost always a belly flop. The truth is, the people we love are fallible human beings and they will never be the perfect mirror we desire. Can we love them anyway, by taking the empathy plunge ourselves?

7. We care more about our children than about the one who helped us make them. 
Our kids should never be more important than our marriage, and they should never be less important. If they're more important, the little rascals will sense it and use it and drive wedges. If they're less important, they'll act out until they are given priority. Family is about the constant, on-going work of finding the balance.

8. The hidden power struggle. 
Most conflict in marriage is at least in part a negotiation around the level of interconnectedness between lovers. Men usually want less. Women usually want more. Sometimes, those roles are reversed. Regardless, when you read between the lines of most fights, this is the question you find: Who gets to decide how much distance we keep between us? If we don't ask that question explicitly, we'll fight about it implicitly. Forever.

9. We don't know how to maintain interest in one thing or one person anymore. 
We live in a world pulling our attention in a million different directions. The practice of meditation--attending to one thing and then returning our attention to it when we become distracted, over and over and over again--is an essential art. When we are constantly encouraged to attend to the shiny surface of things and to move on when we get a little bored, making our life a meditation upon the person we love is a revolutionary act. And it is absolutely essential if any marriage is to survive and thrive. <huff post>

Wednesday, October 15, 2014

10 Real Differences Between Being In Love And Loving Someone

It took me a very long time to learn the difference between being in love with someone and actually loving that person. I learned the hard way, the very, very hard way.
Hearts were broken repeatedly over the years, and although I wish the pain could have been avoided, the experiences taught me more than any book or class ever could.
I grew up on fairy tales and love stories that taught me to believe that being in love and loving are the same thing. That couldn’t be any further from the truth.
Being in love with someone and loving that person are two different things. Understanding the difference and being able to apply the knowledge to your own relationships is key to building a lasting relationship.
Here are a few differences between being in love and loving that I wish I knew a decade sooner:

When you’re in love with someone, you want this person.

Being in love is wanting to own a part of the other person. It’s believing this person is so wonderful that you want him or her to be a part of your life, a part of you. When you fall in love with a person, you feel an intense urge to consume that person in any way you can.
Being in love is believing you need someone in order to be happy.

When you love someone, you need this person.

You don’t just want — or rather, don’t only want — you need him or her. You need this person to live a happy and healthy life because your happiness literally depends on it.
You need him or her to be a part of your life in some way or another, not because you want to own a piece of this person, but because you want to give him or her a piece of yourself; loving someone is deeming him or her worthy of owning a part of you.
It isn’t about ownership; it’s about wanting only the best for that individual — something that often means letting that love go.

When you’re in love with someone, your emotions are always on high.

Your brain is producing the most amazing chemical cocktail, making you feel as if you were floating atop of a cloud. You get high just by being in love with a person — and it’s a sort of high you never want to let go of.
No one wants to come down from such a high. This is where the problem lies: You inevitably do come down.

When you love someone, your emotions settle and then fluctuate.

Loving someone isn’t as much about the emotions as it is about the thoughts.
Thinking about someone, wishing the best for that person, doing the best to make him or her happy and, well, caring for that person just as much as — if not more than — yourself, that’s what love is. The emotions that come with it are just the perks.
Once you have passed the stage of simply being in love with someone to actually loving him or her, you have to learn to let go of the constant high and to ride the less frequent waves as they come. They always come. They just aren’t the “in love” emotional state that only falling in love allows for.

When you’re in love with someone, you’re aiming to reach some goal.

That’s what makes falling in love so exciting — the constant yearning for more.
You want to spend more time with this person, get to know him or her better, be with this person as much as possible. You always want to have more, and want to build a greater, more serious relationship.

When you love someone, you aren’t rushing to reach the finish line.

The goal that being in love calls for no longer exists — but only because it’s already been reached. This often scares people because they begin to feel a need to continue making progress.
Unfortunately, everything in the universe is finite. You can’t make progress and continue building something greater forever. The only thing you can eventually do is keep reinforcing what you already have.
Being in love is not only understanding that what you have is all you need, but wanting to strengthen that bond indefinitely.

When you’re in love with someone, you think you care more about that person more than you actually do.

Falling in love is much, much easier than loving. When you’re in love, the chemicals in your brain and body make you feel as if the person is the greatest person in the world.
You believe this person to be the most amazing specimen you have ever encountered. Sadly, this way of thinking usually wears off as soon as the feel-good chemicals wear off. Then you’re left lost and confused.

When you love someone, you care about that person more than you think.

Being in love is easily recognizable, as it makes you feel a constant yearning, a constant need. Loving, on the other hand, doesn’t give you such constant reminders.
However, life always manages to give us those reminders. Life will often keep people away from us, harm those in our lives and sometimes even take them from us entirely.
When you truly love someone, such moments of separation and loss overwhelm you with emotion. People often forget how much they love a person — or fail to realize how much they love them — until life forces them to remember.

When you’re in love with someone, you can fall out of love with that someone.

What goes up must come down. In the case of falling in love, what comes down often crawls back up. If you can fall in love with a person then you know you can just as easily fall out of love with him or her.
Being in love — and romantic love altogether — is mostly a result of our minds’ creation. We make, or allow, ourselves to fall in love by romanticizing the individual as well as the relationship. When you’re in love, reality doesn’t always line up with your version of it.

When you love someone, you never really stop loving that someone.

Loving a person is something that defines you — it defines the person you are. Those we love, those we care about most, those who mean the most to us, and who have affected us most in our lives, are those who never really leave us.
They may remove themselves, or be removed, from our lives, but they never leave our minds. Their memory, the thought of them, makes us feel strong emotion. Their presence in our lives has had such an incredible influence on us that, because of them, we are different people.
When you love someone, you can’t stop loving that person because it would require you to stop loving a part of you yourself.

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5 Quotes From Bill Gates That Prove You Need To Fail To Succeed

Bill Gates is the richest man in the world. At 58, he’s worth close to $80 billion. He’s an innovator, a philanthropist and an inspiration to people across the globe.
In 1975, Gates dropped out of Harvard to co-found Microsoft Corp. with Paul Allen. Twelve years later, when he was just 31 years old, he became the youngest billionaire in the world. Microsoft is now the largest software company on the planet.
A completely self-made man, Gates is a testament to the fact that unabashed optimism and improbable dreams can lead to exponential success. It also doesn’t hurt to have a touch of genius, so don’t go dropping out of school just yet.
Gates is also one of the most giving people in the world, and has donated $28 billion to philanthropic causes via the Bill and Melinda Gates Foundation.
These quotes from Gates provide a glimpse into the mind of the mad genius who simultaneously holds the title of the wealthiest and most generous person on earth:

1. “Success is a lousy teacher. It seduces smart people into thinking they can’t lose.”

No matter how successful you might be, it’s important to stay humble. Don’t get too ahead of yourself.
Success is as fleeting as life itself, it can all be taken away at a moment’s notice. Nothing is permanent. The only constant in life is change.
Remember that success might change your life, but it should never change who you are inside. Be respectful to everyone you encounter, and give back to the world around you.
We learn more from our failures than from our triumphs. Don’t let success blind you from the fact that failure was always your greatest teacher and inspiration.

2. “Don’t compare yourself with anyone in this world… if you do so, you are insulting yourself.”

You are beautifully unique. Remain cognizant of that at all times. Perceptions of success are ultimately subjective. Measure your own success by how well you live up to your values, not by comparing yourself to others.
We all move at a different pace, and each of us has to take our own paths in life. Sometimes we have to take the wrong path multiple times before we stumble through the woods to find the right one. Or as J.R.R. Tolkien once said, “Not all those who wander are lost.”
Embrace the randomness of your journey through this world. No one else will live the exact same life, that’s what makes all of this such a gift.

3. “Your most unhappy customers are your greatest source of learning.”

A business can learn a great deal from unsatisfied customers. If a lot of customers are unhappy about the same thing, it’s a definite sign that a specific change is necessary.
The same is true in one’s personal life. We can learn a lot from the people who are unhappy with us, particularly those who are close to us.
You’ll hear a lot of people tell you that you should never care what other people think. That’s typically good advice when it comes to strangers or acquaintances. Yet, when the people we love are upset with us, it’s probably a sign that we haven’t afforded them the proper respect.
Life is about cultivating relationships and building connections. If someone is unhappy with you, address the problem by engaging and communicating. This is good advice in business and in your personal endeavors.

4. “Be nice to nerds. Chances are you’ll end up working for one.”

Popularity is a fickle notion that changes as we age. The biggest loser in elementary school can end up becoming prom queen or the stud of the century in high school.
Likewise, the biggest nerd at your university might end up dropping out to eventually become the most prominent man or woman in the world.
All people deserve respect because you never know where they might end up. Life is long and convoluted, with many twists and turns. Plant the seeds of kindness early on, build relationships from a young age and you will never walk alone.

5. “Life is not fair — get used to it!”

Life is not all sunshine and roses. You will fail constantly. There will be struggles. Much of what happens to you will be completely out of your control. It will be frustrating, enraging and chaotic at times.
All you can do is accept it. Take the good with the bad. Find balance in the universe. Remember that there is no light without darkness.
The greatest moments of your life only feel that way because they are the counterparts of your most painful experiences. Don’t actively seek out pain or failure, but recognize them as natural parts of life. We evolve through struggle.

<Elitedaily.com>

Tuesday, October 14, 2014

It’s About Trust: 20 Things Strong Couples Do Differently

Being part of a unit can be difficult. You make decisions with someone else in mind. You have to be careful of another person’s feelings. And you need to be conscious of also making yourself happy.
So when we finally find that significant other who makes this all seem easy, we know we possess the foundation for something good to grow.
Strong couples are, first and foremost, strong individuals. They are secure with themselves and, therefore, can allow themselves to be vulnerable in a relationship. Once you have that special kind of acceptance from the other person, your strength is reinforced.
Solid relationships are dependent on two people’s understanding and appreciation of each other. It’s falling in love with the person who makes you smarter, better, faster, stronger… and then taking on the world together.
Here are the 20 things that strong couples would never do.

1. They avoid deliberately try to make the other person jealous

When you’re in a solid relationship in which you receive enough attention and care, you don’t feel the need to additionally seek it out through low-level tactics.
Sure, keeping your partner guessing isn’t a bad thing, but keeping your partner guessing about your level of commitment is. Jealousy breeds insecurity, and that’s not what we’re trying to do here.

2. They don’t go through each other’s phones

Having the urge to raid your partner’s cell phone signals to your partner that you don’t trust him or her. Once you start prying into each other’s phones, all honesty goes out the window and every text is grounds for an argument.
Don’t say through text what you wouldn’t feel comfortable saying aloud and you won’t find yourself apologizing later.

3. They aren’t complacent in the relationship

Even the strongest of couples understand that relationships take work. They aren’t all holding-hands-and-kissing-in-the-moonlight dreams that we have when we’re single.
Strong couples put forth an effort every day. They are grateful for the other person, make room for growth, and say “I love you” and mean it.

4. They don’t compare the relationship to their previous ones

When we compare two things, there will always be a winner and a loser. Every relationship is different, and what makes one special might not hold true for another.
It’s possible to have more than one successful relationship in your life. Strong couples focus on the relationships they’re in, not the ones they’ve moved on from.

5. They don’t enter into Facebook relationship

If you actually put that much emphasis on social media to validate your relationship status, you probably aren’t mature enough to be in a real one.

6. They don’t insist on being with each other all the time

Secure couples don’t need to be with one another 24/7. In fact, they don’t want to be together all the time. They know it’s important to still maintain their independence and outside interests.
That means seeing the chick flick with your girlfriends or attending spin class by yourself. Your partner wants to enjoy his/her own life, and for you to do the same.

7. They avoid picking on each other’s flaws

We all have improving to do. When the playful jest turns into annoyed jabs, it’s symptomatic of a larger struggle between partners.
Strong couples know the other person’s weaknesses, and rather than putting their partners down for it, they don’t mind stepping in for support.
He might be horrible at keeping surprises and you might suck at organizing your schedule — but you two make it work because you’ve got each other to lean on.

8. They aren’t trying to the make the other person something he or she is not

You fell in love with each other for a reason, not for a project. Stable couples don’t try to alter the other person’s appearance, or make her edgier or him less talkative.
Happy partners are in love with the real people in front of them.

9. They would never compete with each other

There’s a difference between challenging your partner and competing with your partner. In the former, both of you emerge as better people; in the latter, someone has to lose.
It’s not about who bought dinner one night or who thought of the restaurant. It’s about selflessly making each other happy and getting there together.

10. They don’t place restrictions

Restrictions are the anti-growth for relationships. So-called “rules” that prohibit each other from doing certain things will only spawn resentment.
We know you’d rather not watch us parade around in short-shorts in the same way we’d rather not hear that you’re grabbing coffee with your ex, but we’re secure enough not to hold each other back.

11. They won’t sugarcoat things

You’re a strong couple because you built each other’s strength and got there together. That means always being honest with each other, even if it’s not what you want to hear.
Sometimes, I really don’t want to acknowledge the fact that I will always be the messier person in the relationship. And then all of my dirty clothes are magically piled on top of the bed and I know what I need to do.

12. They never insult their partner’s family

Feeling comfortable enough to insult your partner’s family is like thinking it’s acceptable to comment on your partner’s weight. It’s really only OK when your partner does it.

13. They aren’t always wondering where the other person is

Strong couples don’t need constant contact. They aren’t consumed with what the other person is doing or distrusting of his or her whereabouts.
There needs to be a balance between thinking of yourself and thinking with someone else in mind.
For instance, the times I’m thinking of my significant other include supermarket shopping, on the gun range and kick-boxing, while I tend to dream about BeyoncĂ© alone.

14. They don’t get drunk to like each other more

You can actually enjoy another person totally sober. Revolutionary, we know.

15. They don’t hang out with only each other

Just because you spend every second together doesn’t mean you have a solid relationship. The ability to separate from one another actually makes your ties stronger.
Nobody enjoys that couple that can’t be without the other person. It’s too much. It feels disingenuine. It’s just as important to keep your outside relationships as it is to maintain your romantic ones.

16. They never deny physical affection

The sexual component of relationships holds equal weight with the emotional stuff, too.
It should be hard to resist your partner, and even more unbearable to get on without him or her. Quality time is the best time.

17. They would never publicly put the other person down

Humiliating your partner — especially in front of other people on purpose — is grounds for breaking up. There’s a way to express yourself, and there’s a way to, well, not.
The only time it’s ever cool to embarrass your significant other is by farting loudly in an otherwise silent space. True story.

18. They don’t judge the relationship against other couple’s

There is no one way to love somebody. When you compare what you have with someone else’s standard, there will always be instances you come up short.
Strong couples are strong because they don’t base their value on how they measure up to the outside world. They focus on themselves and know that they are good.

19. They won’t get mad without explaining why

We know from grade school drama that addressing situations passive-aggressively never works the way we want it to. Successful couples are able to speak up and not be afraid of how the other person will react.
Harboring anger without giving your partner a chance to make it right isn’t fair to anyone.

20. They don’t go to bed alone

Even if you’re not physically together, you’re together in your hearts.

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